Your life matters, and trust me, rebuilding after my first marriage was a journey that took a significant toll on me. In the USA, nearly 39% of marriages end in divorce, as reported by SMU Daily Campus, and I find myself among that statistic. The pain of ending a marriage is something you may not fully understand if you haven’t yet married or are not planning to anytime soon.
Today, I want to set my personal story aside and explore how late marriage can profoundly change a life. With many thoughts swirling in my mind, I will focus on the most important insights. Join me as we delve into this transformative experience.
Psychological Effects of Late Marriage
People love to receive care, love, and, most importantly, they want to feel important always. But is it possible to achieve this if you are leading a single life? No.
You might laugh at me, but trust me, I can explain. People often feel depressed because they do not have someone with whom to share their pain and desires—especially women working outside to earn a meager income for their families.
Gradually, women may start to feel worthless. On the other hand, when you have a partner, you can share your thoughts. Despite feeling sad, you gain the courage to face the next day.
For men, the situation is similar. After returning from the office, you need a comfort zone where you can relax. With an understanding partner, life can improve significantly.
Biologically, men may be more prone to vulnerability than women. They often seek out places where they can find love, respect, and better advice for life. In these cases, marrying before 30 can be a blessing.
Some couples choose not to marry at all and instead move in together to avoid tax liabilities. They may also seek marriage counseling from their lawyers. To maintain a smooth life, people might want to enter into a relationship but cannot afford marriage.
Now, let’s consider the other side of the coin. Late marriage can be a blessing for some individuals.
Elders urge us to settle down, but not everyone’s idea of settling is marriage; some of us prioritize financial stability in life. For men, marrying means taking on another person’s responsibility.
You must protect her, buy her gifts, take her out on weekends, and treat her like a queen—these are mandatory responsibilities. If you marry at an early age, you may not have enough savings to support your partner.
The moment you can’t afford to make things easier for her, she may become upset. Many marriages end in failure due to the financial situation of one spouse.
In this condition, marrying early can be a curse for you..
For women, early marriage often brings baggage into their lives. They do not have time for themselves. Since they have higher fertility, they often become pregnant within a few months. After that, caring for the child and family becomes the sole duty of a woman, often with no career opportunities.
Not every woman wants that.
For career-oriented women, early marriage is a significant hindrance to their education and career. Therefore, marrying early is not suitable for them. As they aim to settle down with a handsome salary each month, they choose to marry later.
Maturity and understanding between partners.
It is another vital factor to consider. Whether it is an early or late marriage, the partners need to respect each other. Unfortunately, it is hard to find mutual respect if the age difference is significant. Did you understand my point?
Consider a situation where the bride is 22 and the groom is 35. The bride needs nurture, care, and some fun activities to romanticize her life. However, the groom has a large business that requires him to invest his days and nights. When situations become difficult, the groom often yells at his wife.
There is a gap in their ages, and they do not understand each other’s needs. However, such misunderstandings are less common in early marriages. Couples in early marriages often try to spend quality time during their honeymoon phase. Over time, they start having children and acquiring homes and cars, ultimately leading to happiness.
Fertility and Kids
It is an alarming question for many people that fertility decreases over time, making conception more challenging for women who marry later. Different journals have varying opinions on this matter. However, after the age of 30, women’s fertility does not respond as well as it does in teenagers.
You can have children when you are ready. There is no direct correlation between late or early marriage. Late marriage does not mean you cannot give birth, and early marriage does not guarantee a healthy and supportive environment for a child’s growth. It depends on various factors.
Many families exist without providing proper care for their children, often marrying without planning. When parents cannot afford a happy and prosperous environment for their kids, the children may suffer from numerous traumas, taking a long time to recover. I encourage you to consider this.
Another point to mention is that before having a baby, you should check if your body has any deficiencies or needs extra nutrient supplements. Take good care of your body before attempting to conceive.
Nineteenth Century’s Effect on Marriage
After enormous tortures on women, they have stood up for getting their rights. In the nineteenth century, girls were not accepted as a person. According to Spartacus Educational, women could not sleep alone at night. They needed to have a male person get permission without caring what the stranger can bring.
To be precise, late marriage and early marriage offer two different types of living strategies. I have no clue about your life and I have only mentioned the essential points that people face in these two types of marriage.
Last but not least, be compassionate towards your partner. It might be early or late marriage, no marriage is perfect. We have to reshape us in every stage of life. Have a happy married life.